Today we had the privilege of attending church in Steven and Cristie's ward in Provo.
Steven happened to give a talk in sacrament meeting. It was stellar. The subject was 'patience'. Always needed (the subject as well as the virtue...)
In one part of his talk, he cited some intriguing thoughts from the book, "The Anatomy of Peace", by the Arbinger Institute.
Here is part of the quotes that Steven cited:
"...In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case, since we regard them as we regard ourselves, we say our hearts are at peace towards them. In the latter case, since we systematically see them as inferior, we say our hearts are at war."
"...almost every behavior...can be seen in two different ways: with a heart at peace, where we view others as people with hopes, needs, cares and fears as real to me as my own, or with a heart at war, where we view others as objects, obstacles or irrelevancies."
" ... So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts ... we find ourselves in, ... we first need to find our way out of the internal wars that are poisoning our thoughts, feelings and attitudes towards others. If we can't put an end to the violence within us, there is no hope for putting an end to the violence without."
Note to self: find this book.
Steven happened to give a talk in sacrament meeting. It was stellar. The subject was 'patience'. Always needed (the subject as well as the virtue...)
In one part of his talk, he cited some intriguing thoughts from the book, "The Anatomy of Peace", by the Arbinger Institute.
Here is part of the quotes that Steven cited:
"...In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case, since we regard them as we regard ourselves, we say our hearts are at peace towards them. In the latter case, since we systematically see them as inferior, we say our hearts are at war."
"...almost every behavior...can be seen in two different ways: with a heart at peace, where we view others as people with hopes, needs, cares and fears as real to me as my own, or with a heart at war, where we view others as objects, obstacles or irrelevancies."
" ... So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts ... we find ourselves in, ... we first need to find our way out of the internal wars that are poisoning our thoughts, feelings and attitudes towards others. If we can't put an end to the violence within us, there is no hope for putting an end to the violence without."
Note to self: find this book.
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